Being ACE During Pride

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About 5 years ago I was sitting with a friend and we somehow got on the topic of sexual identities. They started telling me about how they identified as “Grey-A,” which like many others I had no idea even existed.  Prior to our conversation I assumed the label of “bisexual,” knowing that it didn’t quite fit, but without an alternative what was I supposed to do? As I sat intently listening to their explanation it suddenly felt like I had found this little part of me that I didn’t know was missing. 

Wait, Gray-A? What’s that?

Grey-A (also known as “greysexual”) is an identity that belongs on the Asexual spectrum. Yes, that’s right, asexuality has a spectrum. Just like homosexual, bisexual, and heterosexual are part of a spectrum, asexuality is also variant. You can be completely asexual with having absolutely no sexual attraction to anyone up to being sexually attracted (typical sexual attraction) to people. That area of typical sexual attraction is where the hetero-, homo-, bi-, pan-, etc. spectrum comes into play. Greysexuals fall in that middle ground or “grey” area that is neither sexual nor asexual. For some this can require a more personal connection, like demisexuals, for others it can be harder to pinpoint what might cause attraction.

Just to make things a little more confusing, or hopefully clear things up, there is also a range for romantic attraction that falls within (maybe parallel?) to the ace spectrum. The romantic spectrum helps give vocabulary to people who, like me, might not be sexually attracted to people but are romantically attracted to people. For example, someone can be heteromantic and asexual; this means that they don’t experience sexual attraction at all, but they are romantically attracted to people of the opposite gender to themselves.

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